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Guy with a Roving-Eye Ladies, stay far away from these guys as they will always to an extreme flirt and can never be faithful to you. Every other second, these guys just can’t control themselves from staring or passing glances at other women around them. Don’t be surprised if he happens to wink his eyes a couple of times while making up some lame basis for doing so. These traits are too distracting and definitely sure traits to be avoided in a man. Cheapskate determining the cheapskate attitude in the man you’re currently dating is not difficult and it just takes a meeting or two to know them. These guys are downright miserly no matter how much they earn and think many times to spend on something. For instance, imagine hanging out with a guy who drives about 20 blocks away just to save some peanuts on parking or a guy who takes you on a date at the cost of some cheap coupons.uberhorny! ynnig… The Gadget-freak These guys are to be downright avoided as they are always attached, attracted and permanently stuck to their gadgets, no matter how much you try to capture their attention. These guys are nothing but grown-up kids who are still fascinated about their latest video games and women just can’t stand such people, no matter how successful or attractive they might be. So ladies, now that you’re aware of the kind of men you need to stay away from, next time you pick someone, always stay on guard and alert and do the filtering process at a much early in the day phase to save the embarrassment and guilt. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…

Share This Article Facebook3Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: Dating, Online Dating, Tips for Him, Women Choose I’ve been at this blogging thing since 2008. True fact. And you know what? I still suck at it. Really, I do!! When I say “suck” I’m talking about a general lack of quality in my writing and overall lack of any original thoughts to fairly share. Jokes and small talk. Hello, my name is Alex and I bring abso-fucking-lutely nothing to the table! Fortunately, people like me are few and far between. That’s a good thing! In fact, I think I’d like to share a list of five bloggers with you all which can be with a read since they are funny, smart and write some good shit! Now, these are new bloggers, or bloggers I haven’t mentioned on these pages before. That said, here goes.

Sex, Lies and Bacon! – This blog is run by the lovely Melysa Schmitt. She does the single mom blogger thing like no other. I mean Sex and Muther Fuckin’ Bacon!!? You kidding me? Commonly used phrases such as “Shut Your Whore Mouth” can be obtained here and there among other written treasures. She’s almost as inappropriate as me… Almost! The stories here are honest and revealing, no fluff here, folks. What you see is what you obtain and that’s refreshing because I don’t notice a lot of that from a range the blogs I stumble across these days. She’s also got an e-book  (blogvel) you should check out. In addition doesn’t hurt that’s she’s hot. OK Trends Blog – This blog hasn’t seen the light of day since… well, since forever ago. Over a year in fact. But for the data heads and number crunchers it’s a good fun read.

When they do update the blog it’s types of crazy all the data they pull together. When I say “crazy” I mean that the info is revealing; it’s data which will not necessarily shock you, but reinforce the notion that individuals’re far from progressive as a society. I don’t want to spoil it for you, but check out their post on how race affects the messages you obtain. Chelsee Pengal – Twitter – She’s super and she’s contributed this piece and this other one here on our site. The girl is smart and hilarious. I’ll tell you the truth though, I think this woman may be more of an asshole than I am. Yep. I said it. To this point, my beloved Miss. Taylor Cast alone held that honor. After her first contribution to the Urban Dater I needed to read up on the girl. I was delighted to know that she’s as smug about proper grammar as the most stern grammar nazi. The girl knows what’s up! I highly recommend a visit to her blog and saying “hello!” Tell her the asshole at the Urban Dater sent you. Oh and she’s pretty, too.

Tripp Advice – This guy, Tripp. He’s the man. He’s well written and knows his shit and dishes up great dating advice for men, especially those men just getting on with a woman on the first date. He’s written a piece for us before and we’re very happy to have him back whenever he wants! The man is slick, well dressed as is his site. If I was a woman, I’d probably have a crush on the fucker.

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I need to meet this guy and soon. Definitely check out his articles and tips, fellas. Seriously good stuff over there. Right now, the article that stood out most for me is his piece on getting over an ex. I’m working on this one myself. Bonus article for any guy: Tømmy Danger Kim – This is a dude I’d like to have drinks with. Actually him and Tripp. I know, I know.

I gotta stop it with the bromantic stuff; no brodeos here, son! Anyway, this is about Mr. Danger Kim. He runs a site dubbed “Just Call Her.” In between awesome articles of his insights he’ll pepper in a link or a video, like the one below. Yeah, the kid’s deep and he’s talented and he’s so darn talented. One of his recent articles, like Tripp’s, was exactly what I needed when I needed it. I’ve been in a funk and this article reinforced that I need to get out and not isolate myself. I’ve been drowning in work, going on NO dates and, yeah, life is just ick… But Mr. Danger’s words ring true. Definitely check this kid out!   Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Featured, Opinion Tagged in: 30dayblogchallenge In order to gain a proper understanding about the things men notice about women, one has to first accept the fact that ever since a few decades, there has been a rapid shift of roles and responsibilities. It so happens that the women of the present generation are far more independent than their forerunners and there has been outstanding evolution amongst the female workforce. Here are few things that men immediately notice in a woman: A Cute Face This might be problematic for one to accept but the fact of the matter is that guys first notice a face of a girl than her body. Be it her expressions, her eyes, her lips or her smile, everything seems to be all included. Therefore the next time you go on a date, make sure you pay proper attention to keeping your face presentable, while paying more attention never to wear too much of make up as this is considered a massive turn off. A fantastic Body Accept it or not, but a woman with a great body is always considered adorable. Nobody would appreciate a body that is too flabby or fleshy as too much of fat can never be a good thing, no matter how good looking you might be. So next time when you consider creating a date, make sure you enroll yourself in an excellent fitness program and work towards outstanding body as this adds somewhat to your self-confidence. Dressing Whether you’re dressed in a sensual way or a simple way, make sure you take action the correct way without going too overboard or going for an understated look.

The way you dress makes a lot of difference as it creates a specific impression about you and also reflects your personality to a large extent. Whether She’s Loud Guys particularly take immediate notice of a particular trait in women and check to see if they are overly aggressive, be it in their mannerisms or in the way they communicate. In other words, they check to see if they have the right attitude in reacting to a particular situation, whether or not they have the right decorum. It really is definitely annoying to find a girl being too loud and it is considered least delicate. Introvert or Extrovert One of the things that guys notice about women is the way in which they hang out with others. In other words, they always check the gender ratio of the range girls or guys they hang out with.   Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook5Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Date Ideas, Dating & Relationships, For Women Tagged in: first date, What Men Notice, What Men Think Gelato is the next generation of online dating.

in the place of canned profiles and a bunch of questions of who you are or what you like, it is possible to instead import the same information with less effort and more accuracy from the web sites you use every single day. Not only that, but your profile is updated constantly by your activity on those other web sites.  So what else do you need to know? There are no passwords to forget, simply sign in through Twitter or Facebook and import the data you want. This makes up most of your profile on Gelato. Sure certain, if you like your regular “I like to take long walks on the beach” typed in profile, there is a space for that, but its not necessarily needed. Through your online updates, people can really get to know you. The real you. In real time. Your stream says plenty about you and your interests making it much easier for someone who shares those interests to locate you. Gelato also doesn’t limit its information to Twitter and Facebook. Gelato gives you import data from many of your favorite web sites to help further your chances of finding a good match.

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With our stream and the variety of imported information you choose, the old standby profiles are yesterday. One of the greatest things though about Gelato is that with our feeds we make it hard to be fake. On normal sites with simple written profiles, its an easy task to lie and misrepresent yourself. With our feeds, it takes a good deal more effort on quite a few other web sites to really pull it off. We’re all about genuine people finding like-minded people. That makes for better dates. And that is Gelato. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Date Ideas, Online Dating Tagged in: Dating,, gelato, Online Dating, Relationships, social media While caught the morning rush hour traffic and, for some reason, I’d thought of my friend’s wedding a presided over last year, on Halloween, more appropriately titled “the Hallowedding.” It was a great time. Leading up to the wedding I was crafting the homily and I really had to think about love, something I’d been a bit burned on at that time.  I’d gotten within the excitement of new love.

  Whenever I keep in touch with people that aren’t in a relationship, they tend to tell me they just want to fall in love, not necessarily to BE in love. Truthfully, the friends I’ve talked to haven’t said specifically, “I just want to fall in love.”  Yet, what I’m hearing is the ideal of what falling and being in love is, not the complete “work” part of being in love.  In short, I was having a real problem coming up with what to write for my friends. It’s then that I remembered something from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, a movie that I’d been forced to see, when it came out.  Really, I didn’t like it all that much, but there was clearly a line from that movie that burned deep into my consciousness; i mightn’t forget it… It was so weird that such a great line came from a movie that I didn’t really care for. When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to workout whether your roots are become so entwined together that it really is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it’s not excitement, it’s not the need to mate every second of the day. It really is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No… don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is merely being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we have been. Love itself is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is! — Captain Corelli’s Mandolin How awesome is that quote?  I knew I had a winner and it quickly found its way into my homily! In an odd way this quote told me that it’s okay that love isn’t always great; that sometimes it just isn’t that exciting on the surface… We have to peel away at the layers to find the good stuff and it’s a constant work.  I knew this already, but sometimes quotes from lame movies can provided the greatest clarity. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides, Dating & Relationships Tagged in: love, movies, Relationships Marilyn or Jackie?

I take a writing class once a week in hollywood. One afternoon one of the single guys started talking about what he wanted in a girlfriend. This guy fancies himself as a Don Draper-esque type of guy. I was intrigued. Had I found the modern day Don Draper? He said he wants a girl who would “call him on his shit,” smart, likes to argue and knows how to do main-stream women’s things. ( I didn’t take that in a derogatory manner because I am such as a grandma, I cook, knit and bake.) ‘He just described me,’ I thought. So, I went about being myself, because apparently I found a person who can actually handle most of this. This is how the cookie crumbled: • I called him on his “sh*t” and I bet he wished he had let that call go to voicemail. Someone is a wee bitdefensive and overly sensitive and that person isn’t the one with boobs. • He tried to argue with me and when I proved that I knew my stuff and wouldn’t back down he acted such as a cartoon dog with it’s tail tucked between it’s legs. • We then had a discussion about dating. He said waits until the EIGTH date to kiss a girl. Eight! What is this 1901? I’m not easy but eight is a little prudish. He explained, “Yea, I wait eight dates because when a girl kisses me, she has to sleep with me, she can’t control herself.” I just about died laughing and told him, “I dare you to kiss me. I promise you I won’t sleep with you, I promise you.” plainly he was just spitting mad game because he didn’t even make an effort to prove his theory. • Once he got to deal with what he thought he wanted he didn’t know how to handle it.

He gave me a hard time for dating older men and I told him one of the reasons I do is since they are the actual only real types of men that i’ve found which can be assertive/aggressive enough to deal with me. The guy in my class is my age and should have said, “Well i’d like to prove you wrong.” Instead, he got all flustered and shut up. The bottom line is, men, don’t misrepresent what you want. It is a waste of everyone’s time. If you want a slut that will yes you to death to make you (unjustifiably) feel like a god, then just say so. The lady on the street/whore in the bedroom thing is getting old as well, those girls are plainly bipolar. As for me, when I say I want a person who is confident, I don’t really mean I want a push over. ( As a girl who is very assertive, steam rolling over another guy to prove that I am better than him has lost it’s appeal.) And please, don’t tell me you are Don Draper…D.D. had more game at 13 with zits you then do now, son. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides, For Men, Opinion Tagged in: Don Draper should you want to make your ex jealous, you probably have one of two things on your mind. You either want revenge, or you want them back. Maybe they cheated on you, and now you wish to show them what they’re missing. Or did you give them the brush off, and now want to win them back? Perhaps igniting a little fire of jealousy might make them change their mind. Whatever your reasons, you possibly can make your ex jealous. Just by using your mobile phone. But be warned: the longer you spend rummaging through the dumpster of lost love, the longer it will take for you to get closure and move on. But if that’s A-okay with you, let the games begin.

Let’s Go Over Some Basics You wish to make your ex jealous. Not grateful that they missed the fast train to crazy town. The easiest way in order to make yourself look mentally unstable is always to start hammering out daggery status updates. We all have this one friend who is accountable of posting angry break up posts. Don’t air your dirty laundry in public. For instance: Martha posts: “Let down AGAIN. Why am I still single?” *angry face, demon claw, broken heart, cookie, martini glass* on Facebook. When her friends (and exes) read this, they might leap to conclusions about why Martha is still single. Does she have shingles? Is she an attention hound? Or maybe, it’s because she puts every date on blast over social media?

Nobody was asking themselves why Martha is still single before, but now they might be. So, that leads us to Golden Rule Number One – NEVER broadcast your insecurity on social media. Don’t talk negatively about your love life, weight, or family problems online. Keep it secret. Keep it safe. If you point out your flaws to others, exes especially, that’s what they’ll see first. Nobody would have noticed your third nipple until such time you blogged about it. So make a resolution to keep your social media drama free. No matter how much your ex makes you mad, it’s best if you keep it to yourself. Stage One – The Lockdown First thing’s first. Don’t speak to your ex.

At least you probably need a break from each other. Trying to get in contact too soon is likely to burn both of you. So for now, you won’t be texting, calling, speaking, liking their status updates, or snapchatting with your ex. We all want what we can’t have. So cut off all contact. No drunk texting. Lock his number in a box until such time you feel you can be trusted with it again. Stage Two – Boost Your Spirits Not with 80 proof vodka. Getting wasted is a solid solution to make a drunk dialing error that you’ll regret for the foreseeable future. Instead, get your hair done, take a yoga class – whatever it is, make sure it’s going to help you feel on top of the world again. Go on adventures and upload them to Instagram. Even if you’re crying and paragliding at the same time, make sure to smile in the photos. There’s an old saying in Break-upville.

Fake it til you make it. The sight of you having the time of your life will probably make the ex feel a twinge of sadness. Stage Three – Tinder Time Your Instagram looks like you’ve adopted the life of a carefree Groupon addict. But in reality, you’re propped up against your bathtub wearing nothing but a pair of tube socks and drinking wine out of the box. It’s time to get out of your funk! The best way in order to make an ex jealous is to move on with somebody else. Even if you’re not buying a soulmate, dating will distract you from thinking about your old flame, and serve as a one-two punch to help make em’ green with envy. HOWEVER, usually do not take a new date somewhere where you are guaranteed in full to run into your ex.